A bruised female walks into the police department to report she had been assaulted
- Travis Uresk
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by Travis Uresk
5-6-25
| Roosevelt, Ut. | May 3rd, 2025 |
Cpl Cox, with the Duchesne County Sheriff's Office, was dispatched to a domestic violence incident. The reporting party and the victim were at the Roosevelt Police Station, wanting to speak with an officer.
The reporting party stated the victim was assaulted and choked by her husband today, which started from an argument that has been going on since yesterday.
Cpl Cox arrived at the police station and met with Cpl Harrison with RPD, who stated that the victim had red marks all over, including her neck. Cpl Harrison had only spoken with her for a short time about her husband, 38-year-old Alan Michael Allred, who she stated had "choked her out." She doesn't appear to want Alan arrested.
Cpl Cox went into the police station and met with the victim. He could see obvious bruising on both sides of her neck and could see a bruise in the shape of a thumbprint on one side of her neck. She also had an abrasion on her right elbow and other marks on her body.
The victim was emotional and said things like this have been happening in the past, but she has always been afraid to report the abuse because Alan has threatened to kill her if she went to the police.
She began telling the deputy what had happened, which had started over a few days ago. One of her children had achieved something important, and she was excited for them and wanted to celebrate. The following day, Alan came home from work in a bad mood throughout the day. They started to argue, and he called her names and said she was worthless.
He was angry because the victim invited people over to celebrate. Alan told her she was going to pay for it, and the argument continued.
The victim said Alan came into the room and apologized for how he was acting. She said that she wanted to talk with him about why he was acting this way, and Alan got angry with her again and threw his cup of tea, which splashed all over her. She said that Alan then went outside and slept in his camper.
The victim stated the following morning, Alan again apologized for his behavior. She wanted to talk with him about why he has been acting this way and telling her she is worthless. The victim said she was trying to be careful with what she said because she didn't want to make him even more angry. She said that Alan started to argue with her again and threw a hard foam pillow at her that hit her in the arm and caused her hand to hit her eye. She said that she did become angry and threw the pillow back.
Alan spit directly in her face. The victim stood up for herself and told Alan he didn't have the right to throw stuff and to call her names.
The argument continued, and Alan again grabbed her by the throat and then told her to get out of his house. She said that he claims the house and the money is all his. The victim said she grabbed her phone and started to look for resources of who she could call to try and get out of her situation because she just wanted Alan to stop.
She said she loves Alan and doesn't want him arrested, but she didn’t know what to do. She was also considering to call 911.
The victim stated she tried to get her phone from Alan’s pocket, but he said she couldn't have it because it belonged to him, and he paid for it. Alan then grabbed her throat again and pushed her down, and she passed out.
Deputy Clyde and Cpl Cox went to the victim's residence to find Alan. The deputies knocked on the door, and Alan answered and was asked to step outside. Alan was asked if he knew why the police were there, and he said he did.
Alan began telling the deputies that his wife spends money like no other and that issues have arisen from wanting to have a family celebration. He said that they argued last night, and he slept in the camper.
This morning, he went to apologize, but she kept nagging him and wouldn't leave it alone. Alan stated that the victim scratched his face and then jumped on his back, so he pushed her down by the throat. He said that he told her to stop and that he would choke her out, but she didn't stop and that she also threw his phone at him.
Cpl Cox asked Alan where the victim's phone was, and he said it was in her truck. He told Alan she wasn't able to get her phone and said Alan had it. Alan said he put it in her truck, and she must have not realized it.
The deputy told Alan that he was being arrested as the incident was aggravated by his grabbing the victim's throat.
Alan claimed it was self-defense, and Cpl Cox told him that the use of his hands on someone's throat is considered deadly force. Alan argued that he had the right to defend himself.
The deputy asked what threat his wife posed against his life or what substantial bodily injury she posed. He said that she threw a phone at his head. Alan was told that wouldn’t justify deadly force. Alan is also a very large male, much larger than his wife.
Alan was placed into handcuffs and transported to the Duchesne County Jail. Alan was also booked in a separate aggravated domestic case and is being held without bail.
The Mind Control Tactics of Domestic Abusers
“I felt like my brain was controlled by a computer chip.”
“I wasn’t myself.”
“I couldn’t think for myself. I really couldn’t think at all.”
“I looked in the mirror and felt like I wasn’t there.”
“All the constant psychic pressure made me feel like trash.”
The above quotes from survivors of domestic abuse show the effects of mind control. Abusers deliberately make their partners feel confused—sometimes not even knowing their own thoughts. Abusers overwhelm their partners’ views, desires and opinions through what Evan Stark has termed "perspecticide," leaving a victim with an abuse-related incapacity to know what they know. (For example, an abuser convinced his partner that he could read her mind. Another convinced his partner that he was justified in locking her in a closet as punishment).
Mind Control Tactics
How do abusers exert such extreme influence over their partners’ thoughts and feelings? In workshops and support groups, abuse survivors have named the following tactics:
Isolating their victims socially
Restricting access to information
Enforcing rules with punishments for “disobedience”
Blocking their partners from making decisions about things that matter
Keeping their partners sleepy and even malnourished
Pushing their partners to consume alcohol and drugs
Drugging their partners without their knowledge, so the victim just does not “feel right” and may even lose consciousness
Exhausting them physically through forced labor in or outside the home
Humiliating and injuring them through sex
Manipulating them through lies, the silent treatment, and gaslighting
Making their partners “crack” mentally by torturing them. For example, by denying them needed medication, forcing them to listen to two talk radio stations at once, denying them access to showers, or forcing them to harm their own child or pet.
One survivor, Denise, described what she endured as “a blitzkrieg of mental abuse.” Her husband told her that she was repulsive, stupid, and useless. Denise said that she eventually believed that he was right, and she was pitiful, worthless, and unlovable, which made it even harder for her to defend herself against the next verbal assault. Even years after leaving the abusive situation, some survivors report that it is difficult to get the abuser's voice out of their heads.
“Abusers use mind control for the same reasons they use intimidation, isolation, putdowns, financial control, and a host of other tactics,” according to Craig McIntosh, LCSW, who has more than 20 years’ experience working with sexual and domestic abusers. McIntosh suggests that a “crippling attachment anxiety” drives abusers to work so hard to control their partners. He adds, “I would suspect that most abusers who go to the trouble of intentionally creating crazy-making scenarios do it out of a sadistic need to watch others suffer.” McIntosh describes abusers deliberately causing their partners to doubt their perceptions and ultimately their sanity. He added that abusers use this kind of gaslighting not only to make victims feel as if they are crazy, but also to cover up lies such as criminal activity or infidelity.
Defining Reality
Abusers also define reality to control their partners. They make repeated assertions about what love means, how people should behave in a relationship, and the “way things are.” Abusers present household roles, rules, and responsibilities as common sense and nonnegotiable. By establishing the terms of reality, abusers define their cruel and controlling behaviors as inevitable, normal, acceptable, or even as proof of love. For example, Don told his wife, Cindy, that if she loved him, she would allow him to do whatever he wanted to her sexually. Sam told Chris that love pardons all, and therefore she “had to” forgive him if he apologized. Matt asserted that his jealous rages, including punching walls and breaking objects, were signs of love. This form of oppression in a relationship is particularly problematic when people cannot name how they are harmed.
Hard to Leave or Stay Away
Mind control can make it extremely difficult to leave an abusive partner. If a victim makes plans to end the relationship, the abuser may double down on his verbal assaults, or take out loans in her name to make her "too broke to leave," or create public “scenes” to make others think the victim is crazy. Making a partner miserable and then comforting her leads to trauma bonding. The victim turns to the abuser for consolation, which reinforces their attachment, even though the abuser was the original source of the suffering.
Mind control also influences survivors to return to the abuser after a separation. Survivors are used to coordinating their lives around the abuser’s wishes. Sometimes they feel panicked, lost, and empty when this central person is “gone.” They likely also feel responsible for the relationship problems since the abuser has blamed them.
Tips for Recovery
Recovering from mind control in an intimate relationship can be compared to healing from brainwashing in a cult. The abuser inflicted countless small and large psychological assaults throughout the relationship. Time alone will not heal these wounds. Survivors and experts suggest the following specific steps for coping with the effects of mind control after an abuse.
Psychotherapy (especially a trauma-focused therapy with someone who understands domestic abuse)
Journaling
Reading about coercive control
Learning to be in the moment (mindfulness)
Avoiding romantic relationships, dating and sex until you feel you are well and whole on your own
Rediscovering interests that you may have abandoned, and finding new hobbies and activities
Getting in touch with your body through walking, sports, dance, yoga, massage, or other activities that get you moving or help you relax
Finding new friends and renewing old ties with friends (not former intimate partners)
Volunteering. You build self-esteem by connecting with others and doing esteemed acts
Amanda McCormick reminds us that abusers’ mind control is powerful because social forces support some of their ideas. “'You're crazy’ goes with 'women are crazy, emotional, and hysterical.’ ‘You're inadequate’ goes with 'women are weaker and less competent than men.' 'No one will believe you' goes with the fact that women are often disbelieved. 'You like it rough' goes with the idea (promoted primarily through the pornography industry but also in mainstream media) that violent sex is a turn-on for women.”
Lack of social supports for victims who break free—such as safe and affordable housing, jobs that pay a living wage, accessible medical care, etc.—also make it harder to exit an abusive relationship. In other words, domestic abuse is not just a psychological issue but is also grounded in social reality.
Speaking with a domestic violence advocate and participating in a support group helps survivors break free of the aftereffects of mind control in domestic abuse.
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